Relationship Advise - Who Needs a Man When You Have a Jacuzzi?!
Posted: Sunday, July 11, 2010
by Heba Hosny
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Please don't get me wrong: I'm not asking you boycott men! Instead, I'm inviting you to pave the way for a healthy relationship by learning to become self-sufficient. Then and only then, you can welcome love with open arms. Let's get started... " I have nothing nothing nothing if I don't have you!" - A beautiful Whitney Huston song that some women unfortunately live and breath!
A woman who has a strong sense of self worth, on the other hand, knows how to stand up tall and find satisfaction and fulfillment on her own. When single, she's happy and when in a relationship, she's equally happy. She is smart enough not to make her happiness dependent on someone else. So how can we all become that woman?
First things first: Love Yourself...
Probably you heard about the self-esteem boosting exercise that asks you to look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and say:"I love you" 10 times day and night. Have you ever tried it? Well, I did! and it was extremely difficult in the beginning until it finally hit me:"if I can't love myself, how on earth would I expect others to love me?!!"
This was an "Aha moment" and a turning point in my life that paved the way to major breakthroughs in my amazing journey of self-discovery.
Here are some tips to help you cultivate self-love:
- Write at least ten things you like about yourself that makes you feel unique and special and read it every day. And hey, keep adding to the list... The more, the merrier.
- Learn to have a "Compassionate Self Talk" and become your own best friend. Accept yourself for who you are and acknowledge the areas of improvements. Then, and work on them slowly but surely.
- Write at least one paragraph about the importance of self-love and again read it everyday
- Valentines is coming and you are alone? Write yourself a love letter and bring yourself flowers and heart-shaped chocolates...yummy!
- Here is a great tip: have you ever tried hugging yourself?! Trust me, it feels amazing! Give it shout...I'm not kidding here...DO IT NOW!
Life is full of simple pleasures that are starring us in the face. Still, some women are too blinded by self-pity to see them! Jump in: have fun...practice your hobbies...travel...enjoy...explore...learn...grow... whatever works for you. To me, I find that making meaningful contributions in the community, by helping others and volunteering in areas I'm passionate about, is what makes life worth living. In fact, I'm "Over Volunteering" and it's taking its toll on my professional career because I strongly believe that making a difference is far more important than making a living!
Also being a self-proclaimed water freak, I feel that nothing matches sitting in a warm Jacuzzi after a wonderful workout. I wouldn't ask for more!
The bottom line is your joy options are endless when you are single. So if your favorite song was:
"It's Raining Men! Hallelujah!" how about changing it to: "It's Raining FUN! Hallelujah!"?!
Time to raise your standards...have you been "WaaaWed" lately?!
Now that you did your homework and cultivated your sense of self worth and filled your life with rewarding activities you have no reason whatsoever to settle for less than you deserve.
It's time to raise the bar and only allow the "Right" man in your life. It is important to note here that self love means self honesty. In addition to acknowledging and celebrating your strengths, you equally need to address your imperfections and patiently work on either accepting or eliminating them. Doing so will help you create a "realistic" rather than "idealistic" picture of the man of your dreams.
If you ask me: "Heba, why are you single today?!"...my answer would be: "since I did my homework and learned to be happy on my own, my 'WaaaWooMeter' didn't measure up!"
But I know for certain that my Mr. "right" is out there. Perhaps he's "left" handed or just stuck in traffic! Probably he doesn't know what he is missing!
Are you smelling overconfidence in the air?! Oh dear God! Did I work on my self-esteem too much until it turned into a superiority complex?! I certainly hope not!
So what's the deal with the Jacuzzi?! Can a man be replaced by a Jacuzzi?! Well, enjoy listening to my thought provokingly funny opinion here: http://happyhh70.webs.com/ManVSJacuzzi.htm
P.S. Copyrights reserved to Heba Hosny, the Proud Canadian/Egyptian! ABOUT ME
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Top-level comments on this article: (3 total)I wish you all the luck in the world, Heba! I LOVE this article, made me laugh out loud. And yes, it's a great idea to learn to love ourselves first and know what we want...Thanks a lot Jennifer! I took forever to respond to this beautiful comment :).
Beautiful article, inspiring and insightful. An everyone should read article. Thanks for telling us to love ourselves first before we can love another.I appreciate your kind words Hilda :). All of us, men and women, need to cultivate our sense of self worth. Otherwise, we could easily fall prey to manipulative people!Yes! I agree, everyone should read this and implement it :), The world would be a better place. :)
WOW! I am so happy for you and hope there are lots of other people thinking the same way, i also don't date and do those things, just like you wrote, i just work on my self improvement and on my dreams. Im very glad for you and i am sure that a perfect guy will come to you!A 5 Star one Heba!Thanks a lot, HyunSoung. I wish you all the best because you deserve the best.
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